For many couples, planning the perfect wedding is a top priority. However, one bride’s quest for a flawless celebration has sparked controversy and raised questions about the limits of wedding etiquette.
The bride-to-be took to Reddit’s “Am I The Asshole” forum to gauge public opinion on her wedding guest rules. She and her fiancé had sent a list of strict guidelines to their invitees, only to face a wave of cancellations in response.
Among the rules was an “unplugged ceremony” and dinner, prohibiting guests from using their phones except in emergencies. Some parents expressed concerns about being unable to check on their children, but the bride remained firm.
Another rule dictated a strict black-only dress code, with women required to wear dresses and men, tuxedos. This edict upset several guests, including the bride’s aunt, who had recently started wearing colorful clothing again after losing her husband.
Furthermore, the couple had pre-selected bridesmaid dresses and instructed the bridesmaids to maintain their weight. This rule drew ire from the bride’s mother and prompted some bridesmaids to threaten to drop out.
The final straw came when the bride requested that her maid of honor’s daughter, the flower girl, be left with a babysitter during the ceremony. The maid of honor refused, leading the bride to lose her flower girl.
Reddit users overwhelmingly deemed the couple’s rules unreasonable and inflexible. Many pointed out that while couples have the right to plan their wedding, guests are not obligated to comply with excessive demands.
The backlash raises important questions about the balance between wedding planning and respecting guests’ boundaries. Have this couple’s demands gone too far, or are they simply trying to create a perfect day?
